If we want change, we must change first. If something is not going as planned or life is out of balance, change. While something is tipping over, we try to adjust the situation to get things back on balance. Thus we must act, we must change or do something, to get back on balance again. Sometimes we are successful, sometimes we are not, sometimes it just takes a lot of attempts to get there. What will work to keep this item from tipping? We problem solve, work it and keep thinking about it until it item is balanced again. It can take an hour, day, week, month, year, years or maybe even a decade or more before a solution to the problem is found. Success doesn't quit, that's why there is always success, regardless the time it took.
For personal interactions that are not smooth, finding solutions can be easy or difficult. We could be unaware that a change is needed, and not understand that our lives need better balance. Some people go through their whole lives, unbalanced and never knew how to get balanced. Others know they do not have balance, but have challenges in finding their balance. Then give up and go as they have been doing. Then the ones who are out of balance, let go and try to find a solution and when they find it, their life is happy and fulfilled.
A simple tweak can do wonders in a situation, while in another, a major change maybe needed. How do we know what is needed? Are we perceptive enough to find the right change? We can go through life feeling a pseudo balance, not realizing we need balance, and a major challenge comes in our lives. The test, to knock the pseudo balance out of the way so we can face reality. We struggle and are baffled because we thought we had peace and balance. Something is wrong. What happened? I don't have the control of myself I thought I had. We struggle in pain, but then one day, we let go and realize we need to do the change that is needed to get a real balanced life.
Interacting with people can be exhilarating or it can be taxing, depending on the person or their state at the time. Some people bend with you, others dictate that you must approach them in a certain way, or they will shut you out. A person may have a communication style that maybe perfect in one setting, and repulsive in another. It doesn't seem fair that people cannot accept us who we are, but if you are in a situation where you must work with someone who sees you as repulsive, you may have to suck it up and just change to make the situation less stressful.
Why can't people accept me for who I am? You can say that until the cows come home, but the truth of the matter, if you want something to change, you must change first. If you are not connecting with someone and you want to resolve the situation, you must change first. Put the resentment aside, or put the guard down. Take a deep breath and let the nervousness flow out. Bring more positive energy to yourself. This will set you up for better success to be receptive to the other person. Look for clues in their facial expression, inflection of their voice or body language. For a deaf-blind person this can be challenging as you have to get closer to the person to get the signals they are showing. This can be challenging as you need to respect personal space.
As for anyone who has limitations in communication skills, like a hearing loss or vision loss, the burden is always on us to change. The burden on us to communicate carefully our needs. Let people know that you must come closer. I have found turning sideways helps a person feel less intimidated and you can get closer to them. They will be at more ease as you are closer. It is also polite to come to eve level of a person to a wheelchair. Kneel down or sit in a chair. Do the same to someone who doesn't use a wheelchair. Make it an even mutual exchange. Just these simple changes can make a difference of someone being repulsive, so someone being receptive. It may take time, not only to find the right solution to connect, but to change your own behavior. Breaking old repulsive habits or learning how to use new ones. You may not find that right adjustment at first. Be patient with yourself and certainly be patient with the other person. Don't take it personally. The more you take it personally, the more the other person will sense it and back off. Taking something personally is negative energy that everyone can deal without. That puts barriers into communication.
A deaf-blind person or an in-between deaf-blind person has to adjust in many ways. They are different and have to adjust themselves to overcome the different label. What will make you cool or approachable?